Therapist in Corte Madera, CA | Anxiety & Postpartum Depression Therapy
Many of the women I work with here are the ones who keep an entire household's logistics running, appointments, carpools, errands, groceries, while also managing a job or a business of their own. They are the dependable center everyone else relies on, yet privately they feel anxious, quietly depleted, and unsure how to admit that the constant coordinating has left them running on empty. I work with women ready to stop managing everything silently and start attending to what is happening underneath it.
Near the shops of the Town Center, along the marshland preserve that borders Highway 101, and up toward the quiet trails of Christmas Tree Hill, this town often serves as the practical hub of daily life for so many Marin families. Many clients here move between errands, school pickups, and appointments throughout the day, arriving to session already mentally cataloguing everything still left to do. The convenience and efficiency this town is known for can quietly become its own kind of pressure to keep everything running perfectly.
In a place built around efficient, practical living, slowing down can feel almost countercultural. My virtual practice offers a space with nothing to coordinate and nothing to manage, just room to notice how you actually feel. Here, beneath the constant logistics, there is finally space to rest and come home to yourself.

How it works

Setting the Foundation

We begin by slowing down enough to notice what is happening beneath the organized, dependable exterior many of my Corte Madera clients bring into session. Rather than rushing toward the next errand or task, we take time to understand the overfunctioning and self neglect that keep your nervous system on alert. This unhurried pace becomes the foundation for everything that follows.

Building Awareness and Understanding

From there, we begin naming what has quietly been building beneath the surface, the invisible pressure, the guilt, the resentment of always being the one who keeps things running. This stage favors noticing over fixing, learning to catch old patterns as they arise instead of pushing past them. Awareness becomes the turning point where real change starts to feel possible.

Creating Change and Cultivating Growth

As that awareness deepens, we shift toward practicing new ways of responding rooted in steadiness instead of constant coordination. Many women find they need less energy to hold everything together and have more left for the people and moments that matter most. This is ongoing, unhurried work that continues shaping your life well beyond our sessions.

Explore my therapy services and specialization

Many of the women who find their way here run the daily logistics of an entire household while also managing a career, yet privately feel anxious, overstimulated, and unseen underneath it all. Together we explore what sits beneath that dependable exterior: the resentment, the guilt, the constant mental checklist of everything left undone. Many women describe finally feeling room to breathe as our work continues. Sessions happen virtually, fitting around a full Corte Madera schedule, and this work is never about doing more. It is about finally coming home to yourself.
For many women here, anxiety hides behind an efficiently managed life, the errands run, the schedule coordinated, while quietly cycling through worst case scenarios underneath. That efficiency often masks a nervous system that rarely gets to rest. We create space to notice these patterns without judgment, gradually loosening the grip anxious thoughts hold over daily decisions. Rather than trying to manage the anxiety away, we explore what your nervous system has been trying to protect you from. Offered virtually around a demanding schedule, this work helps quiet the internal noise even while responsibilities stay just as full.
Running the household's logistics often leaves little energy for real connection at home. Many women feel quietly disconnected at home, even while everyone assumes things are fine simply because the schedule is working. Together we look at the patterns that keep conversations circling, the resentment that builds when needs go unspoken, and the walls that form from sheer exhaustion. This is gentle work aimed at reconnection, not blame. Available virtually, this support helps rebuild the closeness that often gets lost in constant logistics.
Stress builds quietly here, one errand or appointment at a time, until even small tasks start to feel disproportionately heavy. Many clients keep functioning well outwardly while feeling foggy and depleted within. We slow down together to understand what your mind and body have actually been holding, rather than adding one more task to manage. This work is about restoring ease and choice, not coordinating even more. A steady, unhurried weekly space becomes its own form of relief, helping you meet daily demands with more clarity and considerably less internal noise.
A new school, a shifting relationship, or a new chapter of motherhood often stirs up far more than logistics. Many women feel a quiet grief or uncertainty beneath the practical decisions, even while appearing entirely on top of it all to family and friends. We use this time to understand what is actually shifting inside you rather than rushing to have it all figured out. There is room here for excitement and loss to exist side by side. This work is offered virtually, meeting you wherever this season finds you, helping you move through change with more steadiness and self trust.
Early motherhood can bring a heaviness that catches many organized, capable women off guard. Even while loving her baby deeply, a woman might carry worry, numbness, or constant tension that never quite lets go. Here we make space for intrusive thoughts and exhaustion that rarely get spoken about honestly. Together we explore what your mind and body are trying to communicate beneath the fog. This support is available virtually, fitting around feeding schedules and unpredictable naps, oriented toward helping you feel steadier and more like yourself, one gentle step at a time.
Pregnancy brings enormous physical and emotional change, and for many women it also brings anxiety and identity questions that feel confusing rather than celebrated. Even amid excitement, an undercurrent of fear can quietly take hold. Together we make space for what is shifting inside you emotionally and physically, including fears about birth and motherhood that do not fit into a tidy conversation with friends or family. This is grounded space to feel supported, not simply informed. Sessions are offered virtually throughout pregnancy, helping you feel connected and steady as you prepare for the next chapter.
Sometimes the heaviest moments come not from what is actually happening but from the loop of thoughts about everything that could go wrong on a packed schedule. Many women know logically a fear is unlikely, yet the feeling of it stays lodged in the body regardless. This work is about changing your relationship to those thoughts rather than fighting to manage them away. We practice noticing a difficult thought as simply a thought, so it gradually loses its grip on your day. Offered virtually, this approach frees up energy spent trying to control every feeling, helping you build a life that feels genuinely yours, worry included.

I provide therapy in Corte Madera and nearby areas

I offer virtual therapy to women throughout Corte Madera, from the shops at the Town Center to the marshland preserve along the highway and the trails of Christmas Tree Hill. Whether your days move between errands, school pickups, or a full calendar of appointments, this is a steady space to explore your emotional world with care. Support is available for the logistics, exhaustion, and quiet overwhelm that so often live just beneath an organized surface.

Testimonials

"Tamara is an engaged and nurturing therapist. Her style is warm, nonjudgemental and welcoming. Tamara helps her clients feel heard, accepted and understood so that they can feel empowered to move forward towards their goals and dreams. I highly recommend working with her! "

Therese Yrani LMFT

"Tamara is an outstanding therapist. She has been a trusted colleague for many years- I trust and value her insights and clinical skills. She is an exceptionally caring and attuned therapist who I couldn't recommend more! "

Christine Treski LMFT

"Tamara's compassionate approach and deep expertise in women's mental health make her an exceptional therapist. As a former colleague, I witnessed her unique ability to create a safe space where clients feel truly heard and supported."

Janny Condie LMFT

Hello, I'm Tamara Pancoe, therapist serving Corte Madera
I'm Tamara Pancoe, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Perinatal Mental Health Certified clinician supporting women throughout Corte Madera and the greater Bay Area. My own healing journey taught me what it means to finally be seen and validated, and that experience shapes every session I hold today. I created this virtual practice as a steady, unhurried space for women who look like they have it together but feel anxious and depleted beneath the surface. This is a soft place to land, a place to exhale, a place to come home to yourself.
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Frequently asked questions

  • Do you accept insurance?

    I’m considered an out-of-network provider, which means you pay for sessions directly and can request reimbursement from your insurance company. If you have out-of-network benefits, I can provide a superbill (an itemized receipt) each month that you can submit to your insurance for potential reimbursement.


    Please note that insurance companies require a mental health diagnosis to process claims. This means that you will first need to qualify for a mental health diagnosis before I can provide a superbill. 


    To check your out-of-network benefits, you can call your insurance provider and ask:

    • Do I have out-of-network mental health coverage?
    • What is my deductible and have I met it?
    • What percentage of my session fee will be reimbursed?
    • Do I need pre-authorization for therapy?

    Many clients find that their insurance reimburses a portion of their session fees, making therapy more affordable.

  • What if I don’t want a diagnosis shared with my insurance?

    That’s completely okay. If you prefer not to submit claims for reimbursement, your diagnosis will remain private and will not be shared with anyone outside of our work together. Many clients choose to pay privately for this reason, as it allows for complete confidentiality and freedom from insurance requirements.

  • How does virtual therapy work?

    Virtual therapy allows us to meet from the comfort and privacy of your own space. Sessions take place on a secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform designed specifically for therapy. 


    All you need is a stable internet connection and a quiet, comfortable space where you can talk freely. Many clients find that meeting virtually makes it easier to stay consistent with therapy, without the added stress of travel or scheduling. 

  • Session Fees and Payment

    Each therapy session is 50 minutes and billed at a rate of $200 per session. Payment is due at the time of each session and can be made by credit card, debit card, or HSA/FSA card through a secure online system.


    If you ever need to adjust your schedule, please provide at least 24 hours’ notice to avoid a late cancellation fee.

  • Still Have Questions?

    If you have any other questions about fees, scheduling, or what to expect, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m happy to answer your questions before we begin so you can feel informed, comfortable, and confident about starting therapy.